Relationship Check In for Empty Nesters Part 1 E154
What does a relationship check-in look like in the empty nest? This episode, Rick and Clancy go through their actual check-in questions. Unrehearsed. Real reactions.
They cover togetherness versus independence, what's working day to day and what they'd change, and whether they still talk about anything besides logistics and the kids. Then they get into the five love languages, comparing results and where they overlap and where they don't. Part two picks up with their lowest-ranked love languages and what the next five to ten years might look like.
Want to run these check-in questions with your own partner? Here they are:
1. Are we still on the same page about how we want to spend our time, such as more togetherness or more independence?
2. What's one thing about our day to day life together that's working really well right now? And what's one thing that you would change?
3. Do we still talk about things other than logistics, the house, the finances, the kids? When is the last time that we've had a conversation that wasn't about a task?
4. What's one way you feel loved right now and one way you wish you felt more loved?
5. What does the next five to ten years look like for us? Travel, work, retirement, relocating.
6. What does staying connected to our now grown kids look like? And are we on the same page around boundaries and involvement?
Want to find your own love language? Take the quiz here: https://5lovelanguages.com/
Our book, The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest, is available now. https://www.theloudquiet.com
Join our Facebook group for empty nesters and tell us how your own check-in goes. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Why relationship check-ins fade over time
02:15 Pre-crisis intervention vs annual check-in
03:29 Question 1: togetherness or independence
10:19 Question 2: what's working, what they'd change
14:27 Question 3: conversations beyond logistics
19:37 Question 4: how they feel loved, beginning 5 love languages
20:56 Clancy's top love language: acts of service
24:08 Rick's top love language: words of affirmation
26:18 Quality time, dreaming, and shared goals
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